“Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.”
I have been raised to believe that everything that happens in my life is, in one way or another, of my own doing. My successes, my failures, my triumphs, my mistakes, my happiness, my heartbreaks – all these, while can also be attributed to other people’s actions, will not happen if I never allowed it.
I had been blessed to have been given many opportunities in life. I have a loving family, a wonderful group of friends, a good education, and quick mind, and a few talents, if I do say so myself. I feel like it is my responsibility to balance my life that I do not miss out on one opportunity because I focused on another.
For example, I chose to connect with people over running for honors. I prioritized my well-being (mental and physical) over work. I chose to spend more time with family and friends over people who can further my career. In choosing one over the other, I know that there are a lot of opportunities I lost. But there are also a lot gained.
I never wallow on lost opportunities. Thinking about lost opportunities would only cause me to have regrets and that is something that is unacceptable for me.
Yes, I know that there were times I held myself back. There were times I did not let my light shine through. There were times I did not push myself to do my best. But I prefer to think of these times as the wrong times because for every opportunity to shine that I missed, a bigger and better opportunity comes along.
Opportunities I let go of do not bother or hurt me, simply because some other opportunity matters more. And I found that when things really matter, when it is really for you, it will come to you at the right time, and at the right moment when you are ready to make the most of it.